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Monday, April 30, 2012

Mentorship and Leadership: Any Relationship?


The Leader and Mentor-


Subtly echoing again and again in his subconscious from his younger days is that gentle, inspiring and re-assuring voice saying: “You’re a leader in your generation. You are born to lead.”  By his selfless involvement in free will (social, community and spiritual) services and his career/business/work he has always found himself leading others or in leadership positions. Not by self-imposition but by the unanimous decisions of his superiors or peers who admire his selfless contributions and also by the promotion he earns from time to time. He however believes more in influential leadership. Through his contributions in public and professional life, he enjoys a teeming followership of many that believe in his ideals, share his philosophy and submit to his leadership. He sits on the board of a few organisations and acts as advisor to a number of them. By his continued selfless contributions to public and professional life he continues to climb the rung of leadership from one level to the other.

But beyond just being a leader, he has since gone on to become a mentor to others. Some may wonder are these two not the same? In answer to this, he often says in his teaching on the “Differentiating between Mentorship and Leadership” :

”A mentor is always a leader but a leader is not always a mentor.”  Apart from being covertly involved in the personal social responsibility (PSR) of giving back to our society in his own little and modest way in the past 12 odd years of the 16 of his professional life leading and mentoring young people for destiny through his School of Mentorship (First of its kind in Africa as confirmed by fact based research) by being a follower to his own leaders and a leader to those coming after him and equally a protégé to his own mentors and mentor to those who admire him, he has through hands-on experience developed and taught training modules on “Mentorship” and “Leadership”, their relationship-similarities, differences and benefits. For this laudable contribution and many others to youth development, he has received a number of awards and recognitions for his contributions to youth development. That follower of his own leaders, leader of those who submit to his leadership, protégé to his own mentors and mentor to his own about 360 protégés in 3 continents is ME! – Oladele Olunike. 

So “Mentorship and Leadership: Any Relationship?”.... Mentorship and leadership speak of one thing: “Leaders”. Leadership speaks of leaders, mentorship speaks of leaders. Though mentorship and leadership speak of leaders, you don’t become a mentor till you are first a leader. Leadership is a rung on the ladder you must climb before attaining mentorship. Permit me to quickly state that every protégé today is a potential mentor tomorrow. You can’t be a protégé forever. What do I mean? As you grow in personal and professional life under the tutelage of your mentor, you gradually will start to gather some experience which will help you to deliver certain results that will be admirable enough for others that admire you and your result to seek you to be mentored by them. As a fundamental rule of mentorship, for well rounded grooming, after growing from being just a protégé yourself to being a mentor to others, you must still be a protégé to your mentor- hence you are a protégé as well as a mentor. You must be able to put the principles that you have gleaned or are gleaning from your mentor and are ‘making’ you to work by using it to help others (your protégés) become ‘made’. It is the continuous maintenance of this protégé-mentor position that helps you to become (among other things) a well rounded person personally and professionally.  You won’t attain mentorship (become a mentor) however, till you’ve attained leadership (become a leader).


Becoming A Leader-

No one was born a leader; every leader became a leader by going through a process. Leadership itself will be a mirage till another rung on the ladder of mentorship is climbed. If it is true that the rung of leadership is must climb on the ladder of mentorship before attaining mentorship and before this is another must-climb rung. This rung is the first rung to climb on the ladder of mentorship. It is at the bottom of the ladder of mentorship. Until you climb this rung, never aspire to become a leader let alone a mentor. The question therefore is “What is this rung on the ladder of mentorship that must be climbed before that of leadership, before leadership becomes a reality?” What rung I’m I talking about friend? That rung is SERVICE! Until you climb the rung of service, never dream of becoming a leader! Service is the foundational step to leadership.

Until you pass the service test, never dream of the leadership nest. Stewardship involvement is the master key to leadership empowerment. There is no leadership empowerment until there’s a stewardship commitment. It is absolute commitment to stewardship that precipitates absolute attainment in leadership! Until you are a certified servant, you are not a qualified leader! It is your service mentality that qualifies you for leadership opportunity/responsibility. Until the mantle of service falls on you, you can’t lay hold on the mantle of leadership.



Stewardship-

Stewardship to a large extent has been relegated today to many’s personal and professional peril. Many have made futile efforts to attain positions of honour being ignorant that stewardship is key. Stewardship is foundational if leadership must be functional.

Service-

Service from my perspective in this context is the giving of your time, talent(s) and treasures for the benefit of the other. In this case your mentor. Apparently, you are the one who needs your mentor in the first place as it were and not the other way round.

If you must carry the mantle of exploits the leader carries, you must first of all bear behind him the mantle of service. You must pay the price of service to the one whose mantle of exploits you desire. If you want the mantle of exploits on someone, then provoke it by serving him or her. Mantles don’t fall on colleagues but servants. No one has ever retained and sustained the increase of the anointing without the mantle of service. If what you are after is the title, you will definitely lose the mantle. It takes the mantle of service to be distinguished as a leader. The unction to function is available but it only gets to those who show the readiness and availability to serve. If you will care to bear the mantle of service, you will soon wear the title of a leader.

Two Categories of Service-

1. Service by your might- Menial or Manual Service. 

2. Service by your means- Material Service.

I dealt with these two categories of service in details in one of my previous editions on this blog. Please kindly look up “Relating With Your Million Dollar Mentor”- Monday, March 7, 2011.
Please kindly know that no man will ever be more inspired or challenged than the quality of leadership he follows. The man you follow to an extent determines your inspiration and aspirations.



It Happened For Me-


Having discovered in my third year in the University that acting is one of the vocations of my livelihood, after graduation and with no formal training in this area of my pursuit but only raw talents that I have kept working and growing in phases, I went in search of a mentor with admirable results in this regard to groom me. (Remember as I have taught previously in “Discovering Your Million Dollar Mentor”, result is the number one condition that should attract you to the one you consider should be qualified to mentor you.)
So having discovered through a bosom friend of his who was impressed by my effervescent performance in a one-man act of mine he saw me enact on stage; Reverend Albert Femi Oduwole (a renowned inspirational speaker and author) referred me to the very dynamic and ‘A’ list actor, prolific playwright, a masters degree holder in Theatre Arts at the time from the premier University of Ibadan, Ibadan, Nigeria, who had written, staged and produced numerous box office- smashing stage productions, founder of the renowned Fourthman’s Theatre Company International and Fourthman’s School of Positive Theatre- Reverend Akinola Christopher  Ola-Kris (popularly known as Ola-Kris-his stage name). I approached him to kindly groom me (following all the steps I previously shared in a previous edition “Discover Your Million Dollar Mentor”

Having graciously accepted to mentor me, because of my sincerity of purpose, passion to genuinely develop in my acting career, blazing dedication and commitment to the mentorship relationship as an apprentice under my mentor, before too long because of my service to my mentor (which is one of the ways to receive from your mentor) I discovered that I became one in knitted in spirit with my mentor. His cause was my cause. I desired most importantly among others for my mentor’s vision, mission, and assignment to succeed. In making this happen I served him with my time, talent, and treasure. In other words with my might and means. I enjoyed (and still enjoy) doing the seemingly debasing menial chores (the ‘dirty’ job) in my service to him even more than the ministerial ones that may put you in the spotlight and earn you some ‘underserved’ honour. I looked out for my mentor’s well being. The ignorance and the cause of the failure of many protégés in mentorship relationship is that they don’t look out for the well being of their mentor. As much as what mentorship basically is is the personal or professional relationship between a more experienced person (mentor) and a less or inexperienced person (protégé or mentee) wherein the mentor grooms the protégé by tutoring, training, coaching and sharing his or her experience with the protégé for the purpose of developing and helping the protégé to become better in personal and professional life, what is incumbent on the protégé to give back to the mentor without being asked is faithful service to the mentor. Since in most cases the protégé can’t afford to pay the mentor for this grooming and where the protégé can pay I boldly hold that the worth of the concerns of a mentor over a protégé can’t be quantified or paid for because it is priceless!
It is very important to state here that that priceless concern of a mentor over a protégé in my case from my mentor- Ola-Kris was (still is ) simply magnanimous, gracious and priceless. He looked out for me beyond my expectation. Beyond a mentor, I saw and had in him a ‘father’. He taught me so much and still teaches me, by the most magnetic form of learning- observation- by showing me things. I learnt how to write better theatre scripts, direct stage works like a professional, manage a theatre production play house ( outfit ), organise and stage theatre shows, manage a theatre business, picked up alongside dynamic and contemporary compere skills as he used to compere events back then (he doesn’t anymore with his expanded scope of work locally and internationally. I still do). In addition to all I was gleaning from him professionally, I also received other personal grooming largesse which made me a better person. Ola-Kris rocks!

As I continued to serve under him faithfully (as my only give back for all my mentor was freely and selflessly doing for me) I observed my rapid development form phase to phase. First in the theatre business I came to be groomed in, partly compere and as a better person. The scope of my capacity mentally, psychologically, professionally etc. to handle professional tasks began to increase. As my mentor also recognised this he generously began to share not just his experience with me, but also his influence, affluence, platform and give me more responsibilities. A number of times when he could not honour an invitation to perform in a stage production- theatre he would confidently send me. Some other times it is to go and speak on his behalf or compeer events on his behalf. The feedback that often gets back to him from our clients was always gladdening to him as it was always nothing short of my impressive performance. I was growing! I was developing! I was getting better!

One notably phenomenal experience I will always treasure like others of the opportunities my mentor gave  me to walk in his shoes was on the 4th of August, 2001 at Acts III Theatre Ministry of University of Ibadan theatre seminar. Since I was representing my mentor who was originally one of their invited guest speakers, I had the arduous and intimidating (at the time) task of sharing platform with the revered Drama Evangelist, prolific playwright and seasoned producer of the Mount Zion Drama Ministries fame- Evangelist Mike Bamiloye, another from same stock, the dynamic actor and director- Mr. Elvon Jarret, veteran actor and currently the commissioner for Culture and Tourism of Delta State Nigeria- Mr. Richard Mofe-Damijo (RMD) and a host of others. You can just imagine how the lowly rated back then, unknown and little experienced rookie like me felt. (Better imagined). But one thing was sure; I had been well trained by my mentor and I had learnt well too. With all modesty, it was not my ‘incompetence’ that was my worry- because I was competent to an extent from my training under my mentor, but it was the experiences and track records of these theatre ‘giants’ that made caterpillars grow into butterflies in my stomach.
I can still vividly remember speaking second in the roll of speakers. I spoke on “Dynamics of Stagecraft.” At the end of my presentation it was an unexpected and an unprecedented standing ovation that I received from the audience and my fellow guest speakers. Imagine a packed theatre with those class of speakers I mentioned earlier giving a rookie like me a standing ovation. Wow! It was a momentous time for me at the time in my acting/speaking career and mentorship tutelage under my mentor. Mr. Evlon Jarret (who up until that time I had never met in person but watched only on TV and movies just like all the other speakers-Bamiloye, RMD and co. whom I deeply revered and were to me screen icons) asked for my contact. Of course I elatedly gave it to him. “What?!” I exclaimed in my humbled and icon-struck thoughts. Other participants in the audience asked for my autograph. If I felt like a star in that short moment of glory, as I signed autographs for a waiting hoard of admirers, you won’t blame me would you? Because I did! With this kind of admirable progress and many others that soon followed despite still being under my mentor and still running my 4 years exclusive mentorship programme I started receiving offers from other youngsters, peers and older ones for me to mentor them. A protégé turned mentor through genuine and committed service. These offers began to open greater opportunities for me to advance and expand my career in acting, perhaps I should say theatre. Because I had become more than just an actor. Invitations for my personal appearances in my own capacity for stage performances, theatre seminar speaking-training started coming for me. Magnanimously my mentor encouraged it, even though I was not done with my training under him. He gave me all the support I needed and whatever I made in terms of remuneration he never asked me to remit anything. I had and still have in Reverend Ola-Kris, a master who desired endlessly that his protégé will be like him and even better! What a rare mentor! 



Service->Leadership-

“Until you climb the rung of service, never dream of becoming a leader! Service is the foundational step to leadership.” –Oladele Olunike.


If you must carry the mantle of exploits the leader carries, you must first of all bear behind him the mantle of service. You must pay the price of service to the one whose mantle of exploits you desire. If you want the mantle of exploits on someone, then provoke it by serving him or her. Mantles don’t fall on colleagues but servants. No one has ever retained and sustained the increase of the anointing without the mantle of service. If what you are after is the title, you will definitely lose the mantle. It takes the mantle of service to be distinguished as a leader. The unction to function is available but it only gets to those who show the readiness and availability to serve. If you will care to bear the mantle of service, you will soon wear the title of a leader.
In the service of your mentor seek correction and not ‘commendation’. A servant whose objective is to seek his master’s ‘commendation’ will never be perfect. I desire correction and not ‘commendation’. I don’t think of what next I can take from my master, but rather what next service to render to him. Servants who seek for their ‘rights’ instead of their master’s service, never get to become anything in life. I didn’t seek a close relationship with my master so as to act or speak or compeer on his platform, but rather to serve him as I get “mentored for destiny”.

I am so addicted to service I know not how not serve anymore. Even now, years after I first met my first mentor- Ola-Kris to serve under him and I have since met other mentors to groom me in other areas of my life in line with my destiny which they are savvy in I still serve them despite currently being a mentor to others too who have asked me to mentor them. I have over the years gladly accepted to mentor others again and again to a win-win end. I have since established a School of Mentorship (first of its kind in Africa as confirmed by fact-based research) on September 14, 2001 with 13 protégés of mine being the premier students at the time. Every second Saturday of the month in Lagos, Nigeria, we had a School of Mentorship seminar, bringing to my teeming protégés (mentees) contemporary but proven-with-results unconventional insights on charting a sure way to their destinies in life. Soon due to the recreatable solutions that these teachings brought these youngsters in diverse aspects of personal and professional life, the School of Mentorship (S.O.M, as it was famed, soon became a household name within our locality; hosting an average of 150 young people monthly).

Afterwards, I had set aside till date every of my Thursdays of each week between 9am and 7pm to attend to (mostly young people between the ages of 18- 50) on various issues (personal and professional ) where they need counsel or guide on issues such as personal discovery, discovery of potential, starting a business, pursuing a goal to a logical conclusion, convincing their parents to allow them to study or pursue a particular career, transiting from one business, career, job to another, finding a direction for life, succeeding in a chosen career or business etc. Thursdays of my every week is my NOT-FOR PROFIT days in which I don’t speak, train, facilitate, coach, write, act, compere etc. anywhere for money but counselling, coaching, guiding, strategising on projects etc. with and for young people. The summary of our transformational message at the School of Mentorship was (and still is, as captured in my favourite saying on the subject of mentorship) -

"If you know where you are going your journey is short. If you know how to get there your journey is shorter. If you know who has got there your journey is 'shortest'. If you are willing to submit to who has got there by apprenticeship, and he or she is willing to take you on by mentorship? Congratulations! You...are...there!  - Oladele Olunike.

Ever since then, I have seen (and still see) to a humbling and (oftentimes) tears-inducing state, how the personal and professorial lives of over 360 (a mix of individuals and corporate organisations dotting 3 continents; I refer to my regular or consistently-following protégés or mentees) have positively turned around for the better and progressively too. The Creator alone be praised for these feats. Due to this result oriented (may be surprising to know for you) NOT-FOR-PROFIT program I have received tonnes of offers over the years and they have not stopped coming to speak, facilitate, groom, strategise at seminars, conferences, workshops in tertiary, corporate and spiritual institutions in addition to the starter of all these...being asked to mentor individuals, and now corporate organisations.

Because this ceaselessly coming and mounting offers any time I speak, train, coach, mentor, compere (MC), present, facilitate or act (theatre), at any event and seen, listened to, watched, or my articles are read in magazines, blogs, social media sites, by youngsters, peers, or even those older than I am who magnanimously admire my (personal and professional) results, and because I am fast becoming unsatisfactorily ineffective (by my own ‘steep’ standard of leaving nothing to chance in the bid to achieve excellence) in attending on time/real-time and adequately to every individual or organisation’s needs I accept to mentor, I have hence put up a mentorship blog- “Mentor Me For Destiny...” where I blog weekly mentoring more hundred of thousands, perhaps millions online across the world.

With all these admirable and humbling progress I still take time to serve my mentors that are now 3, who groom me in different areas of my personal and professional life. No mater your success as a protégé or mentee, please never be too proud or successful not to be able to serve your mentor. There is no position I am placed today, that will make me forget my basis of involvement-service. Please kindly note that what you did that got you to where you are now is what will keep you maintaining that level. The rung of service remains non-negotiable if you must be distinguished as a leader.


On Becoming A Leader Via Stewardship-

It is not enough to become a leader; it is effective leadership that channels your path to mentorship. Please remember like I stated earlier (though in different words) that the success principles by which you have attained is the same by which you sustain what you have obtained. If by stewardship you obtained leadership, if you must sustain leadership, it must also still be by stewardship. Leadership obtained by stewardship can only be sustained by stewardship. Leadership is nothing but a calling to a higher level of servanthood. Leadership is nothing but ‘glorified’ servanthood! No matter how high you are lifted you must never be too big to serve. If service lifted you into leadership, service it is that will sustain you in leadership. Leadership is not a celebration of your position but disposition- disposition to serve.


A Leader Not A Mentor-  
   
You may be a leader but not necessarily a mentor. A mentor is a leader but a leader may not be a mentor. A mentor is always a leader, but a leader is not always a mentor. Mentorship is superior to leadership in hierarchy in the scheme of leadership. Both; mentors and leaders are leaders but not all leaders are mentors. Until you are tutored you can’t become a mentor. Tutorship remains the principal foundation for graduation from leadership to mentorship. You may be a leader to many but not a mentor to any; because the people you lead may appreciate your principles but not your person. Why? If your person is contradicting to the principles you teach. For instance, a lecturer in a faculty of medicine in the University teaches that smoking is dangerous to your health, but he or she is a chain chimney. Now you may not find such person admirable, but you will follow his or her principle-teaching to save your life. That lecturer is your leader by virtue of being your lecturer but you may not admire him or her enough to be mentored by him or her-because of his or her lifestyle. So not all leaders are mentors, but all mentors are leaders because they must have gone through the rung of leadership in the scheme of leadership before becoming a mentor or being submitted to as mentors. The true mentor is the one whose principles and patterns- words and ways have fused into one! Who he or she is is what he or she says and does.

What makes a mentor is not just the leadership position he occupies but the person of emulation he exemplifies. This is character. Crystal clear character is what translates a leader into a mentor- the one others want to emulate, learn from, follow, submit to, and guided by. 

Service remains the first rung on the ladder of mentorship that you must climb. In serving faithfully you translate to a leader and as you remain faithful in leadership through creaseless service to others and being a person of character, you become a mentor, who others admire, want to learn from, follow, submit to and be mentored by.

Time to serve. Go and do likewise!

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